There is a term for what many pet parents experience after losing their dog: disenfranchised grief. It was coined by grief theorist Kenneth Doka to describe grief that exists outside of what society acknowledges as a “legitimate” loss. Grief for a pet is one of the most common and most underacknowledged forms.

You may have heard things like: “It was just a dog.” “You can always get another one.” “At least it wasn’t a person.” These responses are not cruel on purpose, but they carry a message: your grief is too much. It is not proportionate. You should be over this by now.

This kind of social minimization makes grief harder, not easier. When your grief is not validated, you do not grieve less — you grieve in isolation. You feel not only the pain of your loss but also the shame of grieving “too much.”

The Good Boy Foundation wants to say clearly: there is no “too much” when you have lost someone you loved. Your grief is proportionate to your love. And if you loved your dog — and you did — then you are allowed to grieve them fully, without apology.